How to deal with unexpected changes in your life

CHANGE. I'm not talking about the kind you get at the cash register, I'm talking big in your face, can't look away change.

It can come at your doorstep so fast, you might not even have a say in whether or not it enters your door. What do you do when the life you envisioned for yourself does not really look like the life you're living in the here and now. Well first thing I suggest you do is, BREATHE. Many people, when stressed hold their breath and tense up their body, which in return amplifies the stress and locks the energy in the body.

So here it is. Mindful Breathing 101.

1. LOCATION. LOCATION. LOCATION.

Find yourself a quite environment away from distractions in order to sit down with yourself and by yourself. (Yes, a bathroom stall is perfectly acceptable to get some alone time; I'm talking to all of you busy bees out there.)

2. CENTRE YOURSELF

What does that mean? Well, it means closing your eyes for a few moments (only if you're comfortable with that) and taking a deep breath into your abdomen, through your nose. Holding it for 3 counts and releasing the breath slowly, through your mouth. Repeat several times until you feel better and present in the moment.

**It helps if you place both hands on your abdomen as you're breathing, in order for you to connect to your breath and observe it from spectator point of view.**

3. SIGH AND THEN SIGH SOME MORE.

Make sound. Making sound is spontaneous and natural to all humans. This is how you release the stress energy out of your body, allowing a natural flow of energy through the body and ultimately bringing yourself into a state of balance. It may be a soft AHHH or even a loud OWW, either way, honour your body and let it lead you towards what it wants you to experience.

The first step to getting through unexpected big change is to GO BACK TO BASICS. Allow yourself a moment of peace during the storm. That is how you cultivate a clear perceptive regarding your next steps. That is how you make conscious decisions rather than reacting to what is happening within you and around you.

A moment of peace can go a long way. Give it a try.